This one is for the ladies, and will be in English for all mye friends who don’t read Norwegian. As some of you know I have written a bookblog for a while now, and this is a review of book number 11.
It is written by Steve Harvey with some help from Denene Millner, and is a fun read. I think it is primarily written for single women, but anyone can read it and learn something. Would you like to get “the inside scoop” on how a man thinks about you? Would you like to figure out how you can find and keep a “keeper”? Have you been dating for a long time without seemingly getting anywhere? Then this is the book to read.
It is 203 pages long, and at the end there are som quick answers to some of the common questions we women have. Now, remember, this is a book written by an american man, to help women understand the men in that culture, and I have to say that I may be wrong, but I think that some of it may apply to all women and all men, and some of it may apply only to the men and women in his culture.
Even so, Harvey has some fun examples and valid points. I am sitting back while I read, thinking that he is telling me, and all the single ladies out there, to set a standard for ourselves. He is telling us that it is important for us to start with valuing ourselves, before we expect anyone else to do so, AND to make sure we know what we want, so we don’t settle for less than that. He writes about asking ourselves some hard questions, both to set this standard for ourselves, and also gives us questions to ask a potential partner to check if he is the type of man we really want in our life. If you want to know all of it, then you need to read the book, but I will throw in a teaser for you, by sharing some of the questions right now:
Ask a man what his short and long term goals are, and listen to what he sais. If he doesn’t have any answers for you, and you are an ambisious woman, you know what to do.
Ask a man what his views are on relationships (don’t specify more than that), and listen while he answers. Do not interrupt him, but let him talk about it, and if he stops you can ask a followup question, like how his relationship with his mother or someone else close to him is. Harvey sais, and I think I can promise you too; you will get some great information about him.
Here is another great tip: “you can’t drive forward if you’re focused on what ‘s happening in the rearview mirror”, in other words, make sure you are done with past relationships before you enter into a new one.
Now I will not reveal anything more. If this is a book for you, you have enough now to go get it and read it, and if it’s not for you, you know that too by now. The purpose of this blog is to have you read my little review, and then decide if you want to go get it or not.
Good read.
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